Hahahaha! I can relate. I entered a bid on an ERA Cobra on BAT (Tinder for gearheads) without telling my wife, and within 5 minutes I got a phone call asking "What'd you buy for $4,000?!"
It seems they put a hold (which showed up as a charge) on my credit card for their fee (10% of the bid price) - I didn't know they did that. If I won the car for that price, it would have been a great deal, but next time I'll bid in the last minute of the auction. That way I only need to have a difficult conversation IF I get a great deal. It might be easier to get forgiveness than permission.
In my case that would have probably included blood...
It sucks to get old but at least the expectations are lower. 65 mustang coupe, 306, 10.4 compression, 180cc homeported Chinese heads, funnel web, t5z, 4.56 gears in a 9 inch locker